Hi, @Lani20 each host has their own policies re. cleaning fees and check-out requests so this varies a lot.
The check-out procedures you mention are not uncommon for vacation rental properties, even with a cleaning fee, regardless of booking platform. Stripping sheets allows cleaners to quickly and accurately know which beds have been used. Taking out kitchen garbage prevents the attraction of pests. Starting a load of laundry takes two minutes and saves the cleaners 45 minutes of washing time. I think the vast majority of hosts would expect guests not to leave a significant quantity of dirty dishes under any circumstances.
I don't know what "etc." includes but the specific tasks you listed are definitely not "most of the cleaner's job," which includes thoroughly cleaning/sanitizing bathroom and kitchen including appliances, vacuuming, mopping, dusting, washing and folding laundry, making beds, cleaning windows, restocking kitchen and bath supplies, disposing of trash and recycling, as well as inspecting the property for damage or missing items.
You're certainly correct that hotels don't expect you to do any cleanup-- of course you are still paying for the housekeeping service as part of your nightly rate. Some guests are more suited to hotels and that's fine; it's your choice. Other alternatives would be to book only rentals that charge no cleaning fee (where of course, you are again paying for cleaning in your nightly rate), and/or to clarify check-out expectations with your prospective host before booking and avoid properties that have any.