I'm getting a lot of good info from this thread of conversations. Thank you!
Before I turned off my instant book, I took someone's advice from conversation and required guests to list names of anyone accompanying them (i.e. - the other guest(s) coming with them and also state their reason for travel/their stay at our listing. This did not, as Huma0 in London stated above, prevent instant booking.
So - I turned "instant book" off a few days ago. Airbnb sure likes hosts to keep it on! After clicking on various 'continue' buttons, it wanted me to check 3 boxes confirming I understood that:
1. My listing won't be highlighted in searches (resulting in fewer reservations).
2. I only have 24 hrs to respond without penalty (I always respond within 24 hrs anyway).
3. I would lose instant book controls like penalty-free cancellations or requiring positive
reviews.
Now - this very last one (3rd box) really doesn't make sense at all. First of all - Valerie still had instant book on when she had to cancel a booking and she is having to go to great lengths to prove 'extenuating circumstances' in order to not pay a penalty. A second point: before I turned my instant book off - I had guests who instant booked - and they had no reviews at all.
Something else I wonder about: you know how when you review a guest and the very last thing Airbnb asks is if you'd welcome that guest back again? What happens if a guest that you clicked the "NO" button to - tries to book with you again (or horrors - instant booked!)?
Again - thank you all for your input on this topic!
Susan