Hello @Luke216
It's not at all clear from your post what it was that you felt was not as advertised in the listing.
What key amenities and facilities were not available that the listing said were being provided?
Were there any red flags in previous reviews that mentioned the issues you had concerns with in previous guest reviews?
Did you contact the host as Airbnb requests within 24 hours of arrival to let the hosts know of any problems you encountered for example regarding missing amenities, dirty bedding, broken facilities?
What restrictive rules did the host have that weren't advertised in her house rules?
What additional charges was she looking for?
If you look at Airbnb Help Centre and search for reviews it will outline how Airbnb's review system works. Reviews are left blind, so neither you nor the host will see each others reviews before they are published. Guests do leave negative reviews.
Yes some hosts will take into account negative reviews, but if it is only one amongst mainly good reviews, hosts will recognise this.
She can ask you to pay for damages or extra cleaning but would need to provide proof of this. If you deny the claim Airbnb will investigate.
In summary my view is that if you had concerns about the listing not being as advertised, unacceptable house rules not advertised in the listing or extra charges then you should have brought them up with the host within the first 24 hours of arrival as Airbnb says on your booking confirmation. This gives the host to respond and address your concerns.
If your listing was not as advertised by all means mention this in the review, but be clear as to what this means for example was a double bed advertised but you were given a single? Was a shower advertised but only a bath was available? Were their no clean linens on arrival.
What you can't complain about is house rules such as having quiet time at night, or leaving the apartment in a clean state when you left.