I strongly disagree with the notion that hosts should be penalized for not receiving a review. It's completely beyond our control whether guests choose to review us, and their choice not to do so does not necessarily indicate a lack of satisfaction. Furthermore, it doesn't make much sense to me that you would wish to have given a "lower quality" experience to a guest who believed they were giving you a positive review.
However, your comment does illustrate a real problem with the disconnect between how the star ratings are presented to guests and the impact they have on hosts. When guests are rating us, 4 Stars is shown as "Very Good." But when Airbnb displays the feedback to hosts - particularly in the "Superhost" system - 4 stars is taken as a total failure. Guests who enjoyed their experience with a host like @Polly16 would surely be quite upset if they knew that their positive review was causing distress. Airbnb should make it very clear to the reviewer that anything other than 5 stars is going to appear as a negative.
