I've just looked again at your listing. I think it is clear enough that you live in the property and rent it out when you are not there. I certainly would not expect 5 star hotel service from what you've written.
With respect to the reviews you mention, I wouldn't worry too much. The issues you've brought up don't appear publicly, and I wouldn't change the things that have been brought up either.
However, your initial question was about a future guest and issues with her being reluctant to change bed linen. I asked specifically what gave you a bad feeling about her message, which would help advise you better. From your description, it could be that there is:
A) a misunderstanding that you are asking her to clean up after a previous guest
B) it could actually be that you are asking her to clean up after a previous guest, or
C) it could be that you are asking her to clean up after herself.
I'm pretty new to hosting, but I am surprised at your description of having a bad feeling over this. I asked what else gave you a bad feeling about this guest, in order to better advise you.
I'm a big proponent of trusting your first feeling about a guest, but on what seems like a simple misunderstanding, describing your feelings as "bad" seems a little overwrought. I'm hoping you'll expand on why you feel "bad" or if it's just that you don't appreciate her honesty about her expectations? From the information you've provided, I think her reply was entirely reasonable, and nothing to be concerned about being put off Airbnb. If it is a misunderstanding, it's easily cleared up. If your answer to the above list is B, then I think that is an unreasonable expectation to put on your guests, and that you might need to find a different solution to cleaning when your co-host is on holiday.