Catherine, the first thing that will help you is to become well-versed with the Airbnb 'language'. You went from an 'inquiry' to 'trying to get the booking deleted' in the next paragraph. I know the difference in language is subtle, but with Airbnb, language and knowledge is everything.
Also, Airbnb is a unigue 'animal'. It is a beast (or can be) in how it can get you bookings, in comparison to the competition. That is indeed its true value. It is NOT its Customer Service, the way it leans toward guests, the way it handles conflicts between guest & hosts, nor its 'sweetness' how it deals with hosts. And it is cunning, like most of the 'wolfs' that occupy the top in the American business ladder.
Oftentimes it feel like a 'pressure cooker', to the unprepared. The faster you accept the above-mentioned realities and personally learn how to deal with them, the better for you;, and then it could all be quite a fun, profitable adventure.
Frankly, it is not a booking agency that accomodates wearing one's feeling on their sleeve, for it is not a very 'warm & fuzzy' entity. 😉