@Greg0 I understand your position and its great you posted here before doing a review.
I'm not sure I would have kept silent during their stay. I always screen my guests, and confirm they've read and agree to my house rules, which are very specific, mention "mutual respect," and have been updated based on my desire to keep things positive and...experience.
We've all been there and this is a great learning opportunity to hone your house rules and hosting style with future guests, decide if there a types of guests you want to attract/focus on...and consider a nominal cleaning fee as a form of "self care" lol...
You have good choices with this bunch and the advantage that they're "newbies."
Choice #1- Don't write a review:
Cross it off as a learning experience and move on. You're not forced to do a review and ABB policy has been that neither review becomes public unless you both post one. You can still choose to message the booking guest and educate them as a form of "community service" about how ABB works so they know how to behave if they book another ABB (We'd all thank you for this : ) , and everything stays private. Do you really want their review of you public?
# 2- Do write a review:
If you do, my advice is to choose your words carefully, set a positive tone, limit details, keep it brief and offer diplomatic hints ained at other hosts without being disparaging. If you didn't set standards before arrival or during thier stay, after the fact is not the fairest time to address it.
I had one early booking that left my place a mess. They were old enough to be the parents of your guests, and were friends of friends. My house rules were clearly stated in the listing and in writing on the premesis, and I checked in daily to seee how things were going. I was really disappointed, didn't want to offend anyone, but felt responsible to alert other hosts.
The advice of ABB veterans was much like what I'm sharing here. I waited a week before creating a draft in MS Word, and rewrote it several times to be tactful and truthful for the benefit of other hosts without being disparaging. In the meantime, I messaged them thanking them for their business, and offered carefully worded suggestions based on the house rules and ABB tradition. There was no reply. In the meantime ABB notified me they'd submitted thier review and asked me for mine so they would both be public. I wrote the final draft of my review for them and was pleased. I thought about not posting it, knowing I might be faced with a negative review and if I were, that I'd have the opportunity to reply publicly.
In the end I did copy and paste it to ABB, and was very pleasantly surprised by the articulate positive review they wrote about me and my place and my level of communication. I felt good about my own review because of the positive tone about thier friendliness and "making full use of the amenities" etc. It was the only review I've written that did not mention wanting to welcome a guest back.
Your guests may or may not write a review. If they do, it's your choice whether you want this booking's history to go public.
If it were me, I'd let it go and move on. There will be other guests you will enjoy with mutually positive reviews : )