Guest having sex in my apartment whilst I am there (making noise)

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Kippy0
Level 3
Alicante, Spain

Guest having sex in my apartment whilst I am there (making noise)

I have hosted over 40 bookings in 2 years I think. Never have I experienced what I experienced this weekend. A guest rented a room in my apartment for her and a male friend. I am assuming they are in their early 20ties. At first all seemed well and the guests were kind as always when I first meet them.

 

This guest is fairly new to Airbnb joined in April (no reviews) so I am also assuming I may have been her first booking. Anyway, fast forward to later in the evening, I hear screeching coming from the room so I asked my bf, if he could hear that noise (from upstairs our bedroom which is on an other floor yet not really sound proof). My bf says, Oh my god I think they are getting it on. I could not believe that a guest would do that not only in a strangers home of which you are merly renting a room, but also whilst the host is present in the house. I also believe they as they were making the bed move they have the knowledge that they would cause for noise.

 

I am super disappointed in this guest and that she would do this whilst we were in the house. I therefore feel like not giving her a good review at all. I think you can never know what people do in a private room and its the risk you take but the fact that we heard it and they did that whilst we were in the house I believe is super disrespectful. At some point I came down, turned on all the lights in the hallway, made myself known in the space and they still kept it going.

 

What kind of review do I give this guest? I feel like I have to say something about it but I don't want to get too personal and put her on the spot. I don't necessarily not wish her any future bookings. Advise anyone?

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Joe242
Level 2
Albuquerque, NM

I'm searching this exact question and how to address the situation as I'm listening to two guests do it in the downstairs room while I have another in room next door! I don't care if they paid. They are a guest in MY house  and my other guest is probably mortified! They rented the room for one night. My mistake was renting to locals who clearly rented my place to hook up. They are being so loud. WTF?! 

I exactly why I stopped renting my space, it became a hook up motel for very vulgar people. My home is a sanctuary. 

Read the post @Joe0 its quite something 

 

a) tell them no sex allowed (how dare you)

b) sex allowed, but please keep it down

c) let it go, you’ll probably laugh about it later 

 

 

Martie7
Level 2
Ocala, FL

I would soundproof the room more and secure the bed better.  I don't like to hear others having sex either. 

Dennis286
Level 2
New York, NY

I like to have sex on holiday, so I expect it from guests. I do ask that they ask if overnight guests can stay and I ask that they stay out of the way of other guests. I have been grossed out by smelly athletes having sex on my mattress cover though - that is just plain nasty! I think it def depends on the culture of both the guests and hosts. I would much prefer hearing sex than finding urine and pubic hair on and around the toilet. 

Robin4
Level 10
Mount Barker, Australia

@Dennis286

As I have said before and been caned for in this thread, I am a bit like you Dennis, to think that a couple are going to go away and say ....."Ok, no sex till we get home" because it might offend someone....really!!

They see a lovely property just where they would like to stay, somewhere nice that will increase the enjoyment of their holiday experience, and all of a sudden they are lambasted in the review and got the hosts back up because they.....had sex.

I am not a good one to be offering advice here because my listing cottage is remote from the main residence and no matter what goes on out there I don't have to hear it. 

 

I would be offended by passionate groaning coming from a bed straight through the wall but, if I was in that position, I wouldn't host.....it would be my choice. not something I suddenly crucify the guest for! 

It's the same as saying..."There is the bath in the bathroom but you are not permitted to put any water in it".....you are kidding!!

 

What needs to happen here as a matter of urgency, because this thread has been around for a couple of years now and shows no sign of resolving itself....we just have two schools of thought!

Airbnb need to add an additional filter which host who object to this happening should have to disclose in their listing description, like.....'No Pets' and that filter should be titled.....'No Sex'! Like 'no pets' it's a legitimate personal hosting choice. Guests can then make a decision to have their holiday compromised by this restriction and still book in spite of it, or they can search and book somewhere else where there needs will be better accommodated.

That would solve this problem!

 

Cheers......Rob

 

Susan383
Level 3
London, United Kingdom

I started the original thread and can’t believe it’s still going on.  The point was an uninvited guest having sex with my Airbnb guest in A SINGLE ROOM.  Different if I was letting a double room for couples.  Comprenez,

Robin4
Level 10
Mount Barker, Australia

@Susan383

Susan, will you please appreciate you did not start this thread....Kippy did, and it is not about your one single bed listing in which you don't allow a second guest.

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Heather133
Level 10
Stowe, VT

Ew

Caroline968
Level 2
Gold Coast, Australia

I am having this very moment now.  This evening my guest arrived at 7.30pm. He said they would be a 8pm arrival.  

They are young early 20 went straight to their room. And in 10 min all I could hear was loud sex.  My daughter was in her room next door. They then put the tv on really loud as I think they heard me just talking to my daughter 10 min later they in the bathroom running the bath and then it was like having 2 year olds playing.  They emerged 40 min later and 15 min later said we going out for dinner will be back later. 

No shame not nothing. Like really.  I guess I was just a shag pad for the night. 

Really not impressed. 

@@Caroline  why should they have shame?   Mammals have sex.  Humanoids have sex. What’s the problem?  I don’t care if my guests eat, talk or snore at a higher volume than I’m accustomed to.  So I certainly don’t care if they have sex. 

SergioandEwelina0
Level 2
Lisbon, Portugal

Hello

 

I have my OWN rules ,and i make sure to send to everyone 1 day before check in (they are also in the app rules).

My flat has 3 rooms and last week i had someone having loud sex at 04:00, they woke up everyone,so i texted them during the act.they didint stop so i went to the entrance wall and told them to dont be loud and they got it and in the morning they said sorry.

I dont mind people having sex,just dont make it a dam porn movie, this is if they wanna stay,if not they can leave and go to a hotel, im from porugal and here its a small town full of places like mine,so the price are around 18-25e(night- room).

if they wanna make a porn movie they can go and pay 130euros in a hotel.

i will always stop guests that are loud,i dont give a dam and im still superhost because i have more guests and my personal sleep. 1.5y hosting and over 140 books and it only hapened maybe twice ,so i dont have any problem,but when they have no respect and making porn noises i will stop them right there, and who is okay with this its just as pathetic as them.one thing is to have sex, other is to scream like no tomorrow at 04:00 , and dont get me wrong ,i have 4.8 in 140 books,from 38 country's.

i have quite time from 22:00 to 08:00 and everyone need to follow,its the law, atleast where i live..they can come whatever they want ofcourse ,but quite and stright to bathroom and room.i make sure this is in the rules and i explain to everyone face to face too.i explain that i have this rules to evade problems and to make piece for everyone.

Then again never had problems, as long as you are polite and strick with people that have no respect to other.

some of them dont care about the review,which they can just simple creat a new account and thats it.so the review sistem only works for hosts.as for guests its a joke.they will just make a new account.so yeah when i have cowboys im just letting them know what i dont like,sometimes we dont even need words. with 140books i had every single problem you can imagine and i managed to deal with all and still have 4.8 score.so dont get me wrong,im not rude to my guests,only when they abuse.

 

Sergio

Sarah2096
Level 2
Newmarket, Canada

This is the third time I am hosting an air b n b and  I am done with the one nighters 

. Condom wrappers and receipts fo 8 inch “dongs” along with disgusting sheets. 

 

If air b n b wants to keep the business, they should openly discourage people from doing this in someone else’s home. How could people be so disrespectful? This is not a hotel, it’s someone’s home. 

What do you expect Airbnb to do?  Yes, in some ways Airbnb's are not hotels but they ARE more like hotels than not. Guests should be respectful but you are kidding yourself if you think Airbnb can regulate sex between guests. Who is a hooker and who is a partner? You can ban visitors, that's one way to help the situtation. We have one nighters all the time and only once has this been an issue. The guest wanted to bring a visitor and my rules said he couldn't.

Amos18
Level 7
Nairobi, Kenya

huhuhu!