Yeesh, As a frequent AirBNB guest myself, I'd be SUPER annoyed if I received multiple messages from my host like some have described. I'm on vacation - I don't want to feel like I'm 'checking in with the office' every 24 hours.
I send two messages:
1) A personalized hello, and thanks for booking with me - I ask if they'll be needing parking during their stay.
2) After they respond, I send the check-in instructions depending on their needs (parking/no parking.)
That's it. I never meet my guests, I'm off-site. I don't ask how their stay is - if they need something, they're more than capable of reaching out. I've noticed that older guests do seem to want/need a little more conversation, and I'm happy to oblige if they reach out first. Otherwise, I leave my guests alone. It suits most people it seems, no complaints yet!
Edited to add: I would NEVER ask for a review. I think it's tacky - they're already reminded by AirBNB anyway. If you did a great job as a host, people will take the time to say so.