@Paul154 they are not a visitor. they are a customer. if you don't want them, someone else will take their money.
i have IB so anyone outside the listing conditions will have to communicate first. myself, i don't take the questions or the way in which they are phrased personally. if a question has been answered by the house rules and listing info, i just copy and paste. if its an entirely different question i try to provide the info they think they require. i rarely preapprove (@Annette33 has pointed out the response choices avail), before questions have been sorted. i take my cue from the prospective guest. 3/8 times someone in that situation has gone on to make a reservation. as soon as they have reserved though, my concierge service kicks in.
re @andrea perceived weaknesses in my accommodation provision, i record these in my listings and the host info. if price is an issue go to the village. if under 12 yrs age children are an issue there is provision without electric fencing and large machinery in the village. if distance is an issue, it is only 5 minutes to the village and there is nothing there to compare with Hukawai Lodge and its location. so generally we come back to price. public transport is not an issue here, since there isn't any. transport from an airport is also not an issue, since the closest international airport is 5 hrs away. without exception atleast 90% of travellers arrive with a vehicle. to Hukawai Lodge, 100%.
re passive-aggression, its not my thing. but i can certainly understand that after some time in the game dealing with people, that certain patterns can become onerous, monotonous and tedious. i am very direct in my listings. this intentionally acts as a filter. on the ground i am exceptionally amenable although i won't tolerate BS. my goal is to provide my full range of skills to guests in order to make their stay as memorable and non memorable as they choose. and since i now have a season (+-40 days) under my belt, i no longer rate the review system as highly as i did before starting. its my opinion that there is no managing every personality type. people will do what they will do. and the review system is a tool of power wielded negatively by generally the passive aggressive. i just try every day to do the best i can.
otherwise i agree with @Kenneth61 a little business streamlining might help reduce the pressure you might feel when dealing with certain personality types.
🙂
Em
Hukawai Lodge
Franz Josef, NZ
https://www.airbnb.co.nz/rooms/15418840