@Robin4
As a mother she needs something to care for and to nurture.
Give her a hug and tell her you are sorry. Ask her about her sons life ..she would want to speak about him ..maybe put some photos out with her.
She would love to care for your garden and your dog ...and birdfeeders .
Have someone check on your place while you are away..and your dog..and maybe have a plan B handy .
Do you have a good friend that would pop in to bring fresh fruit or just a nice muffin for tea .no strings attached of feeling to have to babysit her.
Your lovely healing and welcoming house is something she hopes and dream about.
You dont have to feel you have to be her grief therapist...after initial condolences and talk she will know how you feel.
I put a patio swing out on our balcony and gave my traumatised guest some small jobs to do.
Water plants...fill the birdfeeder....walk the calmest of the dogs .(also the fattest one ) and I gave her some paint and paintbrushes and a large canvas to protect my outside table and she painted 63 fish for my parkingarea wall.
The first days she slept most of the time and I caught glimpses of her painting at night.
They want to be needed..and to have something to care for and a task to complete that is easy and not stresful.
Can you think of some things to give her to do ?
Your lovely dog herself is the best therapist and she might just take all the worry from you.
At the end of 21 days she will have to return to her memories ..but just that little calmer and stronger
And your house will be known for its healing properties .
Lana