@Liz197 @Jessica-and-Henry0
I have said it before so often Liz, people who want to haggle over house rules or other details very rarely make good guests.
Just the manner of their approach, their nondescript way of orchestrating these little variations, as though it is no big deal signifies that they have had a lifetime of getting their own way....they have perfected their craft. When this guest tried to request variations you should have at that point stated....."Our agreement was for xxxx and If I deviate from that it effects all sorts of other arangements so I reluctantly have to say no, sorry but it's got to be this way!"
Throughout my life I had to rely heavily on human nature in business to the point where I have seen this thousands of times and I can almost group them into categories Liz.
The most strident and dificult type are those that were 'only children'! They never had competition growing up and are used to getting their own way. They will very rarely accept something on face value and always put a condition on it that is more to their expectation or liking.
The next most difficult group are those who are the result of a failed parental relationship, a divorce, a custody issue. They feel dudded, as though life has been cruel to them and they need to extract the best out of every situation as a form of compensation.
Curiously those who have lost a parent through death when they were young turn out to be excellent people to deal with. They take on a helping role early because they have had to, and they become very adaptable and accepting of situations.
Liz, you can tell a lot by the way a guest approaches you....If they compliment you or your listing and simply want to stay, they will make good guests! If they want to ask a heap of questions about various things they could have read in your listing description, what they are doing is trying to solicit an alteration that will shift the balance of power from your favour to theirs.....and it is probable that they will be difficult. They don't do it consciously, it's just something they have always done, it's a form of entitlement.
I have recently been put to the test when I did let my guard down and offered a discount for a stay on request. I have had reason to regret that decision.....and it won't happen again!
I know most of this Liz is not information you were asking for, but I can asssure you it is valuable to put in your memory banks for the future!
Cheers.....Rob