Hey @Maddy56
It is bad form that they drank the wine (after specific instruction not to) and took the candle (and perhaps more) but I sense you will have to put this down to experience and lock away anything you don't wish to go missing should you let out the entire place again when you are away.
You could try making a claim via Resolution Center but be ready with evidence and receipts to back up costs. You can also be honest when you leave a review.
Did you charge a cleaning fee? If so, that may be why the guest felt no need to clean up after themselves. Next time, I would suggest being more upfront with a future guest in your welcome pack of what are your expectations for how the place should be left.
I do hope this one bad experience does not put you off from hosting in future.
Adam