@Kimberly507 You can't "wait to see what they say"- you have 14 days to write a review after the guest checks out. So does the guest. Neither review will be published until both have submitted a review during that time period, or if only one party has left a review, that review will be published at 14 days. Reviews are blind- you can't see what the guest has written until the review is published- then it would be too late for you to review.
And I don't understand why a host would write something different about a guest's stay according to the review the guest leaves. Just write honest reviews of your experience of the guest' s stay, the guest's review has nothing to do with it. If they left the place clean, if they communicated well, if they were demanding and unappreciative, none of that changes because of what the guest may write. If the guest writes things in their review which are untrue or complain about things they never mentioned during the stay, depriving you of the opportunity to try to address the issue, then a host can leave a response to the review- that's why the response function exists.
Some hosts have been blindsided by a bad review from a guests who voiced no complaints during their stay, left the place clean, didn't cause any problems, so the host left a good review. When this happens, the host can write a review response along the lines of "I was quite blindsided by this review, as XX voiced none of these complaints during her stay. As I take my guests' experience seriously and do all I can to make them comfortable, I would have appreciated knowing about these issues during the stay, so they could be addressed appropriately".
For this guest, she was totally insensitive to a personal tragedy you were going through, so say that. "As I had just had a tragic situation happen in my life when XX asked to book, I suggested she look for another suitable listing, however, she was quite insistent on booking, so I rushed to ready the space for her. In spite of knowing of how devastated and distracted I was by a personal loss, and that I had gone out of my way to accommodate her, she found it necessary to launch into a litany of complaints the first morning after she arrived, although I had made it clear that I was grieving. Unfortunately cannot recommend this guest."
That's just the truth, right? And you can be pretty sure that if she found it necessary to complain about a ton of stuff during her stay, ignoring your situation, she will be sure to carry on with those complaints in her review.