Hi Georgette,
I have a lot of resources on my insta page its at sorchaandmattsgrandadventure! Def check that out. I try to pop in here 1-2 times a month but I am on there daily.
So I manage 8 airbnb's. Both my own, and for others and have 2 more airbnb's onboarding this month. Here's what I tell clients. 50% of new hosts will drop out within 6 months for exactly the same or similar reason's you have sited. This business (and make no mistake it is a BUSINESS) has a learning curve. You're learning how to set up your space to hold up to wear and tear and you're learning how to communicate rules/ expectations that may seem like common sense to you but may not be for someone else.
1. You need to remember this is a business, and while you're sharing your home, you need to remember that no one views YOUR space the same way you do and that it's very normal for people to have accidents. Be prepared for them and ensure you're buffering in for wear and tear on your nightly rates. (I advise 5% of all bookings should go in a separate account for repairs/ replacements of items). Wear and tear is expected and something you need to develop an objective view of and address through pricing. It's not personal. They aren't trying to be disrespectful it's just not everyone is bothered by the same things, its part of being human and being different from one another.
2. Buy a washable rug. You can get them from Amazon, or rugs USA (ruggable too but they are expensive). It will save you ALOT of $$ and time because they can be sprayed with folex or spray and wash and tossed in the washing machine. You can even tell guests that the rugs are washable! Sometimes guests will reach out and let me know.
3. Make rules that state the following
"Damage or stains caused by guests to fabric surfaces which cannot be removed will incur replacement fee at guests expense.
Guest must notify host immediately of any damage or inury.
By booking guest acknowledges they understand and agree to these rules."
This way if someone damages the rug beyond repair you can submit a damage claim and get reimbursement.
4. Think through how you can help your guests help you. Do you provide stain remover? Do you provide cleaning tools/ products to your guests so they can easily clean things up themselves? Where are they located, do you include those locations in your handbook? When you chose the materials that went into your bnb did you think about or purchase for stain resistance or how easy/ fast they are to clean? This is all stuff you learn through trial and error and while it can be frustrating while you learn if you're priced right, it should be worth it.
What you're experiencing is a very normal part of the learning curve. The question you should be asking yourself is- Am I making enough $$ doing this that it's worth my time? If not, have you priced your space appropriately? What WOULD be worth your time? Can my local market and home support the price I WANT to charge for my time?
Let me know if I can help! I teach new investors how to start, setup, and manage airbnbs all the time.