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[Nancy1882]

Hi,

I have a guest who is staying with me for a month.  

When he uses the kitchen he is on the phone constantly. It irritates me and I just go in my room  

I was talking outside on my porch with a neighbor, and he comes outside and talks on the phone.

This is irritating me.  What should I do?

[Till-and-Jutta0]

Some people seem to be unconscious about their social behavior. You could try to start with a polite question like “I hope my silent presence is not disturbing you” or something like this. Perhaps you find a better wording (I’m not a native speaker).

Once I experienced a similar situation in the Sauna (with strict silence rule) where two buddies babbled incessantly, and finally another guest used a sentence like this. Worked!

[Helen3 · Accepted solution]

As a home share host it's much easier to resolve these sort of situations @Nancy1882 

just sit down and have a chat while the guest and say you'd appreciate if he could keep calls to a minimum in communal areas and reference any house rules you have around this .

[Nancy1882]

Thanks for your reply.  I was wondering, do most host shave this as a rule?  Or is it a given?  No speaking on the phone in the communal areas?  It is very annoying since I like to connect to my guests in the kitchen area.  But this guest is always on the phone so it's impossible to connect with him.

Nancy

[Helen3]

hosts do have rules around being quiet between certain hours @Nancy1882 

but quite honestly just have a chat with him

and ask him to have calls in his room. 

[Till-and-Jutta0]

We also like to socialize with our guests in the shares areas – however not to listen to their private phone calls.

But, I think, you can’t educate guests. Either they are well-educated and don’t do this – or they aren’t. Same in the tram: there are polite and impolite people.

How about listening to your favorite music in a volume that is comfortable to you (but not to public callers)?

We drastically shortened our house rules. We never had such a rule included, and would find it very strange to find such a rule when we travel.

I would focus on finding the right guests for the future. A good matching makes hosting easier.

[Sharon683]

Clearly he is use to living alone.  He is not aware that others are not interested in his personal conversations.  I would definitely have a conversation with him.  Hopefully he is not loud during his phone conversations.  That could be even more annoying.  Good luck!