Hello @Calixto-and-Cindy0
The pre-booking question that you mention was formatted for those hosts that used Instant Book. Airbnb removed it at one point but after a lot of hosts complaining it was brought back late 2022 according to a thread on the CC that you might like to read:
https://community.withairbnb.com/t5/Airbnb-updates/The-Instant-Book-pre-booking-message-feature-is-r...
If you're not on IB, you can programme messages that you send to guests requests before they even book by writing your own message asking them what brings them to your city, details of their group and your house rules. Info below:
https://www.airbnb.com/help/article/2898/
All the best
Joëlle