@Ann-Marie47
I wouldn't say you were wrong in your actions, but I do think that the Airbnb third party booking aspect is not fully thought out.
Hosting guests is a risk. Often we take direct bookings from people who we wouldn't have any clue who they are, no profile photo, no reviews, but what we do have are their contact details and to a certain extent their bank details too. We also hold their damage deposit until this is returned after they leave and leave no damage behind them. Airbnb prevent that sort of detail passing to the host in their bookings, and only hold a theoretical deposit. Why is that? Why is it the host is relying on what is turning out to be an unreliable booking platform which favours guests actions over hosts?
One of our recent guests booked for his wife and some of her friends. In that situation, why should a host discriminate between family members who normally would travel together? It seems rather odd.
There is of course the insurance aspect, but that never seems to be of any benefit - rather, another penalty in the way it depreciates the values of damaged property - if you ever get to make the claim in the first place..
If we were a live-in host I can perhaps understand from a safety issue that whoever you accepted to stay should be the guest who turns up. But less important when you're renting a whole home. Those two scenarios are completely different and yet they are covered by the same archaic rule.
It is a shame that you lost a booking because of adhering to rules. The rules here seemed to have penalised you and you have also incurred cancellation losses and you will now need to persevere with Customer Services to return your account back to where it should be, because you were adhering to their rules.
Sometimes, a conversation like this needs to happen directly with the policy makers, but they're never around here.