Your home is quite lovely and as evidenced by the 30 glowing reviews you provide good value. Perhaps there are a few tweaks you can do in terms of communication as is usual for most of us, but I would guess all the wonderful guests have lulled you into believing all guests are responsible. It is not evident from the listing if you have instructions at your home about the level of cleaning you expect, but I would suggest you do so. Most adults are self-monitoring and would naturally clean up after themselves, but some treat a space as if their mother was sweeping up after them.
Also, do you meet the guests at check in? Since you are nearby, perhaps you can schedule to meet the guests and orient them to both the space but also your expectations regarding how they treat the space and clean up after themselves. You might at least consider doing this orientation for those guests that do not have at least 2 positive reviews.
As to your own review, since the guest does not see your review until they do one as well or until after the 14 day period, whether you wait or not, is not important. What @Heather1086 experienced was a retaliation by the guest for the claim process, not for an unpublished review.
As to the content of your review, the guest not only ignored your check out time and communications about that, they did not respect your space. I would imagine you would not recommend these guests to other hosts or accept a booking from them. Being clear, concise and honest would include: "good communication prior to check in but failed to respect the space and check out times."
Good luck!
