@Grant200 " We don't want to leave a bad review because i think we have been really lucky so far with how guests treat our property etc."
I don't see where one thing has anything to do with the other.
If your guests were disrespectful, that needs to be part of the written review- there is zero point in writing a review if it doesn't reflect reality. Leaving honest reviews helps all hosts to decide whether to accept a booking or not. Would you want to see a string of good reviews for guest who was actually a bad guest? So you accept the booking, only to find that the reviews weren't honest and the guest is a nightmare?
If you feel that the mess or damage was simply a matter of being oblivious rather than willfull, that still needs to be mentioned in the review, but it doesn't have to be harsh. "More attention to cleaning up after themselves would have been appreciated" or "Guests did not exercise care in not damaging items in the home", something like that. And also mention positives, if there were any- good communication, quiet, whatever they did right.