I get many requests from men who want to use my guest room for sex. How do I decline?

[Mary830]

I live across the street from a hospital and doctors ask to book for afternoon delight. How do I decline?

[Sarah977]

@Fred13  Do they have no-tell-motels in Belize? They're all over Mexico. Rented by the hour, with a slot next to the room for your car, covered by a curtain so no one can see whose car is there and report back to the cheated-on spouse.

[Fred13]

No, but in Costa Rica, I am told (of course), you drive up to a window (inside garage), pay by the hour at booth (like at McDonalds); exit incognito to main road through the 'back way'. How creative. >:)

[Rebecca181]

@Sarah977 @Fred Madre De Dios, this gives new possibilities to the term 'Super Size Me'!!!!!

[Sandra126]

I am with @Ange2 in that I really want to know how you know, surely they don't just say that? Or do they? Let us know!

[Wayne70]

I don't worry about what someone does in my apartment as long as it is legal, abides by my rules, and my property is not damaged. Someone could book for two weeks and cast porn stars on the down low, so knowing the guest's intent up front (or assuming it) should not be of your concern, really. If this is some form of personal morality thing you are hung up on, then that's .. well - personal and you will need to deal with that at a deeper level than Airbnb. All the best.

[Sarah977]

@Wayne70  Renting out an entire apartment as opposed to a bedroom in one's home are very different circumstances when it comes to Mary's question. Why would you assume it has anything to do with a moral judgement? Maybe she just doesn't want to have to listen to someone going at it loudly every afternoon while she's trying to work or relax.

[Wayne70]

@Sarah968 I did not assume a moral judgement, Sarah, and ironically worded my comment to make that a less likely case, although there's no argument that casual sex is commonly considered immoral by many. Not by me, but I don't know Mary.
The fact is - Mary's question seems to say - "I don't want to have a couple in my place to just have sex so how do I avoid that?" My essential point is - How do you prevent that, really? No newlyweds? No anniversaries? No single guys that may like porn? You can't, and should not try to prevent guest sex. You're inviting guests into your house and giving them a private bedroom, so ... yeah.

To your point - if noises from a guest bother you and disturbs your peace and quiet or work space, then why in the world are you hosting near strangers from Airbnb in your home?

[Sarah977]

@Wayne70  Hosting a couple who are actually staying in your home, may be out and about some of the time, may have sex 5 times a day, or not at all, and will probably take the time to have some friendly conversations with their in-home host, seems quite a different circumstance to me than someone just renting a room for the afternoon for the sole purpose of having sex.

And hosts who rent out a bedroom in their home do expect that guests will be respectful of the other occupants and not be so loud as to disturb other people. It's just commom courtesy. Having to listen to guests having loud sex, loud phone conversations, or playing music or TV at high volumes are not things which are required of in-home hosts in order to be considered good hosts.

[Wayne70]

Sorry Sarah, I am not able reason with you. I just can't see how a host could expect to be so controlling and demand proper etiquette from their guests beyond the standard house rules. all the best to you. Guests need some freedom and the ability to enjoy their stays and not have to cater to the needs of their hosts

[Rebecca181]

@Mary830 If it were me, I might try putting in my listing that I require bookings to be overnight bookings and not hourly. Also, that anyone residing in the room needs to be a registered guest (meaning, you know their name and their age) for insurance purposes and for the Host Protection Guarantee to apply and that in certain circumstance you may ask to see guests' ID upon check-in (that might be a deterrant as some of the 'guests' might be reticent to offer up proof of their identity).

The last resort would be to only do 2-plus night minimum stays, as others have mentioned, but that could cost you some business and seems unfair to you (I remained sold out in the off-season by offering one night stays, for example, which is why I'm trying to come up with other routes for you to take to solve this dilemma).

[Rebecca181]

Oh, and don't even ask me why I had no choice but to write in my one page 'Cheat Sheet' of the most critical aspects of my House Manual 'No Intimate Experiences In The Hot Tub'. Trust me, there's no judgement going on here. Try draining a hot tub, cleaning, and refilling it, AND clean a 3 story Cottage and Sun-Room when the next guests are arriving in 4 hours. And, yes, draining and cleaning is necessary, if you care about your guests.