After extensively reading about damage deposits I have come to the following conclusion:
- most guests will NEVER accept responsibility for damage and getting into it with them can cause a lot of negative things for the host
- lots of the damage reports seem to be about sheet stains
- most of the problems seem to be about attitude, the host has to realize where his interest is.
Seems to me that the host can perhaps try in a non confrontational way to mention the damage and get a friendly agreement from the guest to pay for it.
If the guest resists, the host is probably better off sucking it up and doing nothing, to preserve their review status and avoid ugly posts and retaliatory posts.
You have to chalk it up as part of the running cost of your airbnb operation, especially for sheets. Airbnb brings you a huge client base and you just have to consider that occasional stained sheets to replace are part of the cost.
Sheets are a huge problem as costly to wash and replace, very hard if you are only charging a small nightly fee.