@Kira32 I think this disrespectful guest kitchen use has everything to do with the location of your listing and the type of guests it attracts, not necessarily with anything the host does or doesn't do. Obviously, respectful, mature people clean up after themselves in a shared kitchen, and don't bang around in there in the middle of the night. That's not something anyone should have to be told, it's just good manners.
I only host one guest at a time, so that helps, and I tend to get a lot of guests in their late 30s to as old as 65 or more. More than half are women. But if a host tends to get a lot of young guests who are used to mommy cleaning up after them, or live like pigs at home, sharing a kitchen could be way more problematic.
And there are some cultures where people just assume that the hotel staff, and by extension their Airbnb host, is there to clean up after them.
I don't know what it's like where you are, but here in Mexico, domestic help is inexpensive, so a lot of middle-class kids here grow up with maids. And it's a culture where housework is still considered a woman's (mom's or the maid's) job. These kids have never had to wash a dish, let alone clean the greasy stovetop or wipe up what they spilled down the front of the counters.