Respond to bad review or not?

Jeanne195
Level 2
San Diego, CA

Respond to bad review or not?

I just had a guest here for 2.5 weeks. She was a reasonably plesant person, but I had some concerns during her stay. I elected not to review her because I didn't want to review without mention of the problems, but I didn't really care to publicly air them. Basically, she brought 5 suitcases, including a MAMMOTH that took up the entire back seat of her car, into my small room for a 2.5 week stay. I found out afterward that most of this (consisting of clothing and FOOD) had been stored for *seven months* in her car & the car stored in an open lot. About a week and a half into her stay, a HUGE cockroach appeared in the bathroom she was using (and had her stuff in), and then a second and third appeared within 24 hours. I have lived in this home for 5 years and had family and guests in the room, we have never, ever, before or since, seen any sign of a cockroach (of any size) in this house. We rarely see anything other than an ocassional daddy long legs or silverfish. I panicked, wrote AirBnB, got a non-helpful response about what to do--if I should confront her to move items that had been stored in that manner out of our house.  Instead, I just waited it out & then fumigated the room and bath. I took pictures to show how clean my house is and all the suitcases she shoved into the room as well as the incredible junk piled in the car that the suitcases came from. This was the worst--there were a number of other bothersome & concerning things, but this is the one that freaked me out and made me think I need to publicly make a house rule that you can't bring items from storage. It is why I elected not to review her at all.

 

Anyway, ultimately the guest left a review which contained a few negative statements: about me working from home "the roommate who never leaves." and about my cleaning during her stay -- which is greatly exagerated. I was in my own room, my son's room and the garage -- sorting clothing and such. The main house is clean, was not being torn up, I wasn't buliding furniture or even moving it around, just sitting in my son's room with door closed sorting clothing or out in the garage on a Saturday afternoon sorting through some boxes. She made it sound ridiculous. She meanwhile ignored many extras she was offered. Here is what I am considering responding: 

 

"Thank you for the feedback, Julie. I have been looking into options for window coverings in the room. It is an odd sized window, which makes it a little tougher. I will be certain to note this in my listing until it is resolved, as well as to make it clear that I work from home much of the week, so people who intend to be around the house a lot themselves can fully consider if that works for them. 

 

As your stay coincided with my son’s travel out of the country, I did take some time to do some sorting and organizing in the confines of his room, as well as my own room and the garage. As these are private areas, and I was sorting papers and clothing, not building furniture, I was unaware it would be quite so disturbing to you. Had a specific concern been brought to my attention, I would certainly have made adjustments to improve your comfort. I felt you communicated well and appreciate your comment about my responsiveness on other matters. As a trade off, my son’s absence also meant the 1800 sq ft home, though advertised as a family home, was shared with only 1 adult (me) and the bathroom, which was advertised as shared, was able to be provided for your exclusive use."

 

Thoughts about whether I should respond with this or just not respond at all?

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Yun8
Level 10
Auckland, New Zealand

@Jeanne195I'm sorry you had to deal with this inconsiderate guest.

The general advice from the experienced contributors regarding responding to negative reviews are:

1. Keep responses concise, short and professional.

2. The audience for your response are your future guests.

3. The tone should be neutral.

 

Perhaps something like this?

"Great to hear that you enjoyed the room and its view. A covering will be installed for the window in the near future. I apologise that my filing and organising items inside my son's bedroom disturbed you. As this was not brought to my attention during your stay, I could not make adjustments. Guest comfort is important for me and as I work from home, I always strive to provide the best stay possible. Thank you for your feedback Julie."

 

Other hosts may have better suggestions.

Thank you, Yun. Great advice. I'm definitely hearing a consensus on concise and professional. I like your suggested reply. I think I might just tweak that a little and use it!

Kath9
Level 10
Albany, Australia

@Jeanne195I would respond but agree with @Yun8 to keep it short and factual. It's amazing to me but sometimes guests don't understand that they are staying in people's homes. I have added a note on my listing explaining that it is a functioning home with sounds of life and people sometimes coming and going. If people don't read that, then that's their problem!

Yes, I think I will add a similar note. My ad says it is me and my teenage son, with my college age daughter visiting occassionally. In this instance, it was just me. I am a very quiet person. I'm fairly certain me quietly organizing in my son's room was milder than me and my son both being at home -- talking to one another, coming and going. But, yes, I like the idea of just putting it right out there in the listing. If the expectation is nobody really LIVES in the house, then maybe rent a private home rather than a private room ! Sigh.

Dee9
Level 10
Moriches, NY

Leave out the second paragraph. The first one sums it up perfectly. The end. Sometimes too much talking makes it worse.

I think what you said here is perfect: Thank you for the feedback, Julie. I have been looking into options for window coverings in the room. It is an odd sized window, which makes it a little tougher. I will be certain to note this in my listing until it is resolved, as well as to make it clear that I work from home much of the week, so people who intend to be around the house a lot themselves can fully consider if that works for them. 

Sarah977
Level 10
Sayulita, Mexico

@Jeanne195  I'm really sorry you did not review this guest- now other hosts will have no idea when looking at her reviews that her behavior was objectionable. Next time, please review your guests, good and bad. You can always usually find something nice to say about a guest, while at the same time warning other hosts as to unacceptable behavior. 

I agree with @Dee9 , forget the second paragraph. I think the second paragraph should be " The host is not your "roommate"- hosts have every right to be anywhere they choose in their own home, all day every day, except the guest quarters."

Thanks, Sarah. I think of myself as a "customer service" type of person -- trying to please & to resolve problems equitably & privately. It had not occurred to me that it's important for other hosts to have the head's up. I'm sorry now, too, that I missed the opportunity to review. Definitely sounds like I should keep my response short & sweet.

 

I really, really do tend to want to say that final part you suggest. I've certainly been thinking it. I think that is the part that got to me most. First, having a very mixed experience--including what I've mentioned, and her spreading some things out around the house, and her some days standing at the kitchen counter reading ALL day (when there is a private family room, beautiful covered patio, etc). Then, the GUEST calls ME the "roommate who never leaves."  This not only makes it sound like it's her home, but also like she's talking about someone who's more of an interloper. Truth is it's *MY HOME* that I've opened to her! I'm really stunned by that comment, especially the wording used.

Fred13
Level 10
Placencia, Belize

Perhaps best to address a 'negative' review by painting anything unusual the reviewer mentioned as an exception; all in order to give future guests the impression that what the last guest had negative to say is not what they will indeed encounter.  Example: 

 

"Glad you enjoyed your stay 'X'. Glad to report, the window covers are finally in place; custom drapes sure proved a bit hard to find. Your stay did happen to coincided with my son going out of the country, thus the adnormally busy preparations. It was our pleasure to have you stay with us and we really appreciate it."

 

Then, I would make sure those window covers are indeed in place and give some thought as to how to better descibe the every-day reality of your situation so future guest do not come with false expectations.

Seems like you hosted a pack rat.

Yes. Apparently. Thanks for your good advice on how I might respond to the public review. I appreciate it.

@Jeanne195

Agree with @Sarah977 that you should point out you are a "host" that works from home NOT a roommate , and she was a "guest".  Also, I'd add that she'd be "better suited to staying somewhere that provides guests with an extra storage locker considering the amount of luggage she had." Thank her for her feedback, then say you will work to make things more clearer in the listing description. Reduce the response length down to half or even shorter if possible. 

 

Also, please make sure you review all guests...... you don't have to go into specifics to warn other fellow hosts. Would you have welcomed that particular guest if you had known about the FOOD stuff she kept stored in her car and brought into your home? Reviews are for the sake of other hosts along the line.....I like to think of it as paying it forward. 

 

Thanks for all your good comments above. I've definitely reconsidered about leaving a review. I will review all in the future. 

Noel63
Level 10
Coober Pedy, Australia

I think you need to start respnding to positive reviews as well. If negative reviews are the only ones you respond to, they will really stand out.

Absolutely.  I didn't really think about resonding to reviews at all, but did a little reading and agree this is the thing to do. I do not host often--usually it's more seasonal around summertime. So, this means that it's too late to go back and respond to any previous reviews. I will know better going forward.