@Marta1078 It does sound odd that your review was published before the 14 day period was over, if the host didn't submit a review for you. I've never heard of that happening. You might contact Airbnb to ask them to explain why that would have happened. It could have been a tech glitch, the site has many.
You say this was a host with many properties- I'm not sure what type of Airbnbs you've booked before, but property-managed listings, where they have many listings, may not be nearly as responsive to guest communications as a small-time host with only one or a few listings. They might not consider it important to respond to a private message, although personally, I think that's just rude.
And yes, a host should be clear in the listing info as to what is provided, and what is expected of guests, or at least send you a list of cleaning duties they expect you to be responsible for before check-out soon after you book, so that if those aren't amenable to you, you would be within the time period to cancel with a full refund. They definitely shouldn't just spring it on you in the house manual.
But to be fair, there are many guests who fail to thoroughly read through all the listing information, clicking on everything and scrolling down to the bottom where house rules are located. I know Airbnb doesn't make it easy to see everything, you have to keep clicking on "read more" and such. But it's always important to do that, as all Airbnbs are quite individual and you can never make assumptions about what is provided or allowed. Some hosts may offer use of the kitchen, some may offer it, but only expect light meal preparation, some may not have any cooking facilities at all. Some may just ask that guest leave the place clean and tidy, some may expect guests to strip the beds, take the garbage out to the dumpster and start the dishwasher. There are many guests who arrive with expectations that have nothing to do with what was said in the ad. Some even book a private room in the host's home and arrive thinking they are getting an entire house to themselves. They just didn't read all the info.
It's true that some hosts have had bad guest experiences, so end up with a lot of house rules. There are home-share hosts who used to offer kitchen use, but after several guests didn't clean up after themselves there or took over the kitchen for hours, the host felt they were being pushed out of their own kitchen. So they discontinued kitchen use. I allow guests full use of my kitchen, and none have ever abused that, so I continue to allow it. Once a host decides to scratch something like that from the amenities list, they really can't just make exceptions because a guest says they are responsible or has some good reviews- it's pretty impossible to know how a stranger, which is what guests and hosts are to each other before a stay, will behave. Unfortunately, not everyone leaves honest reviews, and hosts have had guests with 5* reviews who ended up leaving their place a mess or damaged things and refused to pay. As with much in life, the bad people ruin it for the good.
So you need to make sure that the criteria you use to book a place fits what is offered and if you find things not clear or have questions you don't see an answer to, message the host before you book to decide if it's right for you.
If you give a low accuracy rating to a place that advertises things which in fact, are not available, like on-site parking, the host will hopefully take his ratings to heart and make sure he's not offering things that aren't available. But some of those management companies may get so many bookings, regardless of a few low ratings, that they don't really care. Which is in no way acceptable.