Hi @Steven1782
This seems to be the policy of the individual host. Hosts who require guests to send a request before booking, may be looking to enforce a specific policy (such as not accepting guests who do not have a specific number of good reviews). But there are many hosts who have no such requirement, and also many properties that accept instant bookings. When you identify a suitable property, be sure to make it clear how you will be celebrating, that you are in your 60s, and (if it's not just the two of you) exactly how many people will attend. While only some hosts will avoid a guest simply because they don't have reviews, many hosts may decline a booking if they are unsure whether you will throw a big, wild party.