Day 15: Welcoming Sudden Residents to the Brave Little State

Heather133
Level 10
Stowe, VT

Day 15: Welcoming Sudden Residents to the Brave Little State

Seasons changed and we remained in the limbo of 2020.Seasons changed and we remained in the limbo of 2020.

All of us here are experienced at making people feel welcome. The truly special hosts create an experience for guests where they feel someone’s here for them as they explore a new place, whether they need us or not. As we welcomed guests to our barn apartment and the homes we host for folks who live out of town, this has been a year that has tested that idea.

 

image.jpegIn February and March, we watched the corona virus creep across Europe, just a few weeks ahead of the path it would take in the U.S., settling in to our cities and larger towns, causing nearly unfathomable suffering of their residents as we watched on our newscasts. Imagining what public health experts predicted was ahead felt like watching old history films. How could it be possible today? I remember watching the reporting from Italy and calculating we were on what my former naval officer husband would have called “constant bearing, decreasing range” with the virus, about twelve days off by my reckoning.

 

I logged on to my favorite warehouse shopping site to put in my regular order for toilet paper and found there was none to be had. Paper towels were limited. Bleach and Lysol were gone. I scrambled and found a palette of toilet paper. It wasn’t the fluffy kind. It was the kind where each roll is individually wrapped. It seemed perfect for what I thought was ahead as I set out to prepare each rental as if it were for The Boy in the Plastic Bubble. “Don’t judge me,” I told my friends, “I can’t be out.” 

 

We found shoe covers and disposable masks, latex-free gloves in two sizes and, oddly, berry-basil scented Lysol for 10 bucks a can. We studied cleaning protocols and ordered separate mops, vacuums and supplies for each home. We wondered whether we could hold our breath for long enough to inspect an entire dwelling and sprayed our oddly scented Lysol with abandon. We realized how frequently we touched our faces!

 

The rental calendars crumbled and then suddenly filled again, with guests whose offices and children’s schools had closed. Vermont seemed safe. The ski resorts were still open. Why not have a second spring break? As fast as they filled, they emptied again, as the ski resorts shut their doors. An ER doctor friend called. “Please stop renting to people from out of town. Our beds will be full. We won’t have the staff or ventilators to save them.” The vacationers stopped coming.

 

Leave your worries (and your shoes) at the door...Leave your worries (and your shoes) at the door...Suddenly the calls and inquiries were different. Guests were desperate. The notifications came at all hours of the day and night; the people I connected with were focused on getting out of metropolitan areas as quickly as possible. Our most frequent query, “how close to the mountain?” was replaced with “how fast is the internet?” The sheer volume of the questions and the frantic nature of the calls started to take a toll. I found myself waking up with a clenched jaw. My thoughts kept drifting to the people without the means to run from the virus.

 

As we settled these new guests in to what had been vacation rental properties, we watched some of the neighbors become nervous. Where were they from? Were they bringing the virus with them? How long were they staying? Assurances were made that those arriving would quarantine. And they did.

 

Rumors started flying that the Governor of Vermont was going to close down the state by executive order. As potential guests scrambled to find lodging, it became evident we had a new kind of visitor, “the sudden resident.” They came in droves, some to be near family, some as first time visitors, and Vermont, albeit cautiously, welcomed them to “the brave little state.” 

 

In 1928, Vermont native, then President, Calvin Coolidge made a speech after visiting home to survey the damage from a devastating flood. It is from this speech that Vermont earned the moniker, “the brave little state.”    

Ground hogs day?Ground hogs day?

 

‘Vermont is a state I love. I could not look upon the peaks of Ascutney, Killington, Mansfield, and Equinox, without being moved in a way that no other scene could move me. It was here that I first saw the light of day; here I received my bride, here my dead lie pillowed on the loving breast of our everlasting hills. I love Vermont because of her hills and valleys, her scenery and her invigorating climate. But most of all because of her people. They are a race of pioneers who have almost beggared themselves in the service of others. If the spirit of Liberty should vanish from other parts of our Union and the support of our institutions should languish, it could all be replenished from the generous store held by the people of the brave little state of Vermont.’

 

As each of these sudden residents emerged from their 14 days of isolation (and Netflix binging) they began to explore as if they had landed on the moon. The questions followed. When will the snow melt? What do you mean there’s no Whole Foods? What is this “transfer station” you refer to? How does this composting thing work? Where do we score some toilet paper?

 

We watched as guests bought milk and cheese and butter from Mansfield Dairy, traveled to Craftsbury for frozen chicken directly from the farm and tossed around newly acquired lingo like “mud season.” The towns people came together, apart, of course, to take care of one another and the sudden residents as well. A local shopkeeper discovered there was a run on jigsaw puzzles, and put a shelf outside her store where people could exchange for a fresh one. A committee was formed to organize donations and delivery of meals and items to people in need. Volunteers sewed and mailed two masks to every household. I happily shared my hoarded toilet paper.

 

 

Yes there is!Yes there is!

All over town, hundreds of little signs popped up, made by a mysterious someone now called “the sign fairy,” reminding us that we can do hard things. 

 

As the weather changed, and the world seemed a little bit safer, some of our “sudden residents” moved on. For a while we were able to Cheers from the porch!Cheers from the porch!welcome vacationing guests again in a new normal fashion. Some seemed harder to please than we had experienced in the past. Others were effusive with their gratitude for time away from the same four walls and Zoom interface. We adapted to waving to guests from afar, rather than shaking hands and conversing. We threw together tiny last minute weddings to replace larger, long planned, rescheduled and canceled ones. Our guests devoured all things Vermont. I can’t remember a time where I’ve experienced such contagious exuberance for the wonders of the outdoors. Suddenly EVERYONE owns a mountain bike or a kayak.

 

At our own home we turned to our front porch for comfort, overlooking the Worcester mountain range, looking at Mt. Putnam, Worcester, Stowe Pinnacle and Hunger Mountains. With so much change and struggle in the world, we have focused, when we can, on the natural beauty around us, purchasing a propane heater and electric blankets in anticipation of in-person connections with others in the outdoors all winter. The Worcesters are beautiful, even when you can't see them.The Worcesters are beautiful, even when you can't see them.As case counts began to climb here in November, our leaders put a hold on gatherings between households of any kind. So, for now, we’ll enjoy the view and the warmth in a new routine of virtual happy hours in hopeful anticipation of a relaxation of these further precautions.

 

Some of our sudden residents are still here as we buckle down for this next round, all of us holding out hope that we don’t lose anyone else before these vaccines, these miracles, can work their magic. (Did I say magic? I meant their science.) Our local school enrollment has swelled. Some have moved out of our lodgings and purchased homes and snow tires, ready to experience their first full winters in the brave little state. 

 

Like everyone else, everywhere, we have no idea when things will get back to normal. 2020 has seemed to be a year of extraordinary losses. While the virus has exacted a tremendous toll, it seems to me people around us have experienced many other struggles and losses as well. As my sister the psychotherapist reminds me, there is no hierarchy of suffering. Stronger than we knew.Stronger than we knew.So while each of us is justified in saying “it’s been a really hard year for me,” I hope that each of us can also say they have grown and changed and that we were really there for each other. Even strangers, or as we call them, our guests.

 

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Oh yes please @Nick ! I haven't been to Morocco in ages! You have me dreaming of the breezes of Essaouira!

Nick
Former Community Manager
Former Community Manager
London, United Kingdom

You and me both @Heather133 

@Heather133 if ever there was a way to describe this year, and what we have all been through, you have perfectly and beautifully captured it. Both from the guest and the host perspective. We have seen fear and anger; but also incredible resilience and community. Who would have thought you could create such connection when we are all apart. I have never been to Vermont but your description is so wonderful - i can't wait to visit. I hope you are able to enjoy the end of this year on your cosy porch with that view (and that Martini!). I wish you happy holidays, Catherine 

Thank you @Catherine-Powell . I'm so pleased the admins asked us to revisit our experiences this year. It was truly a cathartic exercise. As you are well aware, the Community Center can be a bit much sometimes. We all come to find answers or to let off some steam to people who have walked in our shoes when we're troubled by a hosting situation. I find myself wishing I had a little more time to sift through for more of the positive stories here and the fresh ideas for polishing what we do. Perhaps in the New Year, when I'll have a new helper to take some of the rushing around off of my plate.

 

I hope you get here some time. I'd be delighted to host you in the Barn at Bourne House if you do. Cheers!

Nutth0
Host Advisory Board Alumni
Chiang Mai, Thailand

@Heather133  After finish read your post. I start a search Vermont and it was is so beautiful! Already put a pin on my future travel plan. 

@Nutth0 Thank you! We would love the honor of hosting you some time! 

Debi1
Level 10
Portland, OR

@Heather133 you have spun a little magic with your lovely tale.  So much we can universally relate to, but not say as beautifully.  Your words paint a picture of Vermont that I've never seen, but now make me want to visit some day.  I love the way you describe your community, it sounds like something from our distant past, colored with friendliness, connection and caring as well as the natural beauty of the environment.  Thank you for feeling of contentment I get from reading of your brave little state.

@Debi1 I'm so glad you found comfort in my little story. That made me smile. I've just saved both of your listings for a new travel wish list for after the pandemic. From what I know of Oregon, I think you'll find there are many similarities with Vermont. I loved seeing your "All are welcome" photo in your listings. What a wonderful way to help make all of your guests feel comfortable! 

Miloud0
Level 10
Rabat, Morocco

Salute @Heather133

 

Thank you so much for sharing with us this interesting topic 

 

Happy Holidays 

 

Thanks, 

Miloud