@Holly142 I have never used Instant Book. As a home-share host I don't need to quite as cautious as those who rent out entire places and live off-site. It's not like my guests can sneak in extra people or pets, throw a wild party, etc. And I only host solo guests.
On the other hand because I share my kitchen with guests and they are in my home, I want to make sure they are a good fit.
I tend to get guests who are veteran travelers, have used Airbnb before, and are good communicators, so for the most part, I have not had to ask a bunch of questions- they write an initial message that is polite, informative, and I can tell they have read the listing info.
But I have still gotten some initial messages that just say things like "Arriving at noon" or "Looking forward to coming". In that case, I message back, thanking them for the request, and asking a few questions, the answers to which would let me know if they took the time to read the description. Things that aren't mentioned right in the beginning of the ad- in my case I'll ask, "Just want to make sure you're aware that it's a 20 minute walk to town and the beach and that there is both a dog and a cat on the property".
That normally elicits a more informative response. I might message back and forth with them a couple of times before accepting.
I also message with them after the booking is confirmed, sending them transportation info, directions, suggestions for things to bring (hat, comfortable walking shoes, a small flashlight), they might ask some questions, so by the time they arrive, we have established a bit of a rapport.
I think that even if you're an off-site host, if the guest sees the host as a person, rather than just some faceless entity who rents out space, they would tend to be more respectful.
And last thing- it's important to market towards the type of guests who'll be a good fit for your place, especially if it's off the beaten track and not some run of the mill suburban or city home. In my case, I say it's a good spot for those who like being out in nature, like to do yoga, write, work on their art, bird watch, take walks, that sort of thing. You don't want to attract prissy guests to your cabin who will have a screaming melt-down if they happen to see a field mouse 🙂