Greetings
I haven't reached out to you for some time. My problem is: I have a 63 yr old woman who just checked in 8 days ago for a month long stay. The last three days she was unstable in her walking, and very sleepy. She has also become very messy and unaware of how she is leaving things. Today I insisted on helping her down a few steps feeling a liability risk. She wanted to wait for Uber to take her to the store. After a half hour a stranger knocks on the door to tell me someone needs help. There she was hanging over my retaining wall passed out by the road. I walked her carefully back into the house to her living room. She disclosed she is an alcoholic and takes anti anxiety meds for manic. I saw her bottle of wine on the floor and some still in a glass so asked her if she wanted to give it to me... and she did. Then I got her some food and promised her when I got back from my appointment we could talk more. She welcomed that.
Three hours later when I returned she did not look any better. I had to tell her she would not be able to bring alcohol on my property again or I would need her to leave. She got a bit alarmed at the restriction. She said she understands my concerns for her safety are real.
I was very kind to her and let her know that I can not enable her to harm herself.
I ended the talk asking her if she had any more alcohol she wanted to give me. She said " well now that we're clear after today" ... I said no, starting now... so she muttered that sometimes she has some by her bed and went to look but brought nothing back.
She is scheduled to leave the 27th of September. I doubt we will make it.
Tomorrow I plan to have her sign a statement that she understands the reasons listed why she cannot have alcohol here. At least I will have something to show her if she makes a poor choice. I will add to it that she can only get a partial refund.
what then...
Q - am I allowed to tell her no alcohol since it was not listed previously in my profile?
Q- If she brings alcohol into the house again am I obligated to give her the remainder of her money back ?
What do I do if she is unwilling to go ?
Thanks for your help
TalithaO