@Artíoms1 Thank you for responding and concern. Of course there have situations when I could have been more stricter would have helped but this is not always the case.
For example, I have had situations outside of Airbnb when I get asked out, (sometimes) I kindly say no (reason is not important) and many accept this. But some take this as a « try harder » moment, and insist- once again I say no and it goes from cute, to frustrating, to disrespectful and threatening very quickly... no, is still no! Finally they get the point and move on.
However, others take the rejection wrongly (personally, I would prefer to know up front if someone is into me or not but this is me) and get defensive. I have been called all sorts of things, shouted at, threatened physically etc.
In your everyday life this scary, but you should have the comfort of knowing you can escape it, your home should be a safe space. Yet, if this were to happen in your own home, during Airbnb... please tell me what am I supposed to do.
I once met à male guest at the station and showed him to the apartment, I asked him how he was (that’s all) and he started talking to me about sex and though I am open to talking freely about any topic, if we casually reach it- this was awkward. He then invaded my space and tried touching my arm, my hair etc, I flicked it off and changed the subject, as did my body language and mannerisms (I was not subtle). He continued...
Hence, if at any point I feel uncomfortable or threatened and Airbnb has been zero help, I go stay with a loved one and return only once they leave. Till then, they deal solely with my father or male friends who have been warned and proceed with a very distinctive way of hosting (polite but not quite so friendly).
Being authoritative, shouty and so on does not always work- at least for all women. Instead of having to rely on another’s (in my case male’s) help for these situations, women and everyone really should be empowered and given actual tools (ie. a working and sufficiently trained safety team from Airbnb, with sound advice, verified accounts, so forth) as to first minimise such situations and to then deal with them accordingly and efficiently. Don’t you think so? But once again, this is only my opinion.
