@Gerry-And-Rashid0 And indeed this raises an important point--the one of being, or appearing to be, petty.
I too struggled with my first review of a guest who stressed me out (over leaving a dog in my cabin which I hadn't realized was happening until 6-7 hours passed and I decided to go in and make sure everything ok--triggering all manner of conflicting issues for me: now I'm invading their space, the dog who was super friendly earlier is stressed and barking at me but obviously needs to get out to pee, and uh-oh is that seriously a big juicy meaty bone sitting right on the bedroom carpet? Now what to do, take care of dog and let it all go, be happy, leave bone knowing you already have to have the carpet cleaned, don't give away that you were in there... keep the peace, or .... wait, this is stressful and what if I wasn't home to check, this is not ok, they need to know that you can't leave a dog in someone's house that long. And all I needed was knowledge of the plan and I would have helped them. Like, "Hey, Emily, are you going to be here this afternoon, since the dogs are getting along so well, would you be ok with opening the door for Larry, then we could stay longer at the concert, we'd be so grateful..." Then I could also have let them know that the cabin gets hot and the pup would have overheated in there without either the A/C running for him or me coming in to open all the windows and run the ceiling fan for 20mins or so to cool it down early evening...
I WAS worried about nearly everything when I wrote my review. So I just stated the facts; nice people, friendly, and particularly nice easygoing little dog, but I was surprised when I realized he was left in the cabin alone for extended ..... and explained (perhaps way too much, frankly).
Another host helped me understand that, after my review, the guest then "ghosted out," meaning she abandoned that profile and theoretically starts another one "so their next host is none the wiser."
Hence, frankly, we hosts need "code."
And we need to be clear and not punitive unless the people are truly pigs who caused real damage. For example in my case, they were not respectful (Qho leaves a real meat bone on someone's bedroom carpet and takes off for 9-10 hours, and doesn't even use the old sheet I put in there when dogs stay..??) but even so, in my review I told them I would host them again as long as we had a good clear plan for the dog. My goal is to educate from the host perspective and improve outcomes for myself and others. They could have responded with "sorry for the stress, we should have told you, we thought we would be back sooner, but next time we'll have a Plan B - thanks again." Perhaps I am naive...
This seems an excellent thread to address writing effective reviews for negative outcomes that can be easily corrected with feedback. And not simply cause either AirBnb to delete the review, or the user to abandon the profile and start over.
No solutions coming to mind yet. Looking forward to advice of others with good experience to share.
Thank you
Emily