Hi all. Im posting this question after my best friend called me for advice on how to deal with this tricky situation. And shoot me, Im not sure what id do myself, and as a host I would also want to be told about my fault instead of my guest keeping silent and having a next guest finding the same.. surprise.
So how would you talk about this as a guest and how would you want to receive the comment as a host: your thoughts are valued 😉
So heres the situation. My friend has to travel to the same city a few times a year and found an air bnb he really likes (it has an office, kitchen and comfy bed and the location is ideal). The host is supernice and friendly (a ‘love laugh live’ type of person), but a newbe in the field of hosting. He was her first guest. I came over too to visit and found bloodstains on the sheets. Being a woman, I know its only natural to have accidents that cant wash out. But as a host you should really get a seperate pair of sheets for guests 😉
So thats a newbe mistake. And i told my friend to be frank about it (in personal comments). It will help her to be a better host in the future.
He did and she was glad about his honesty (felt a bit ashamed tho) yadieyada.
And he returned last week. Yes new sheets and cleaner place, but he had to redo the undersheet of the matress. He felt something weird while replacing the side of the matress and therefore pulled up the whole thing: ah, it was a full crossed bondage strapp (bdsm). And you know what? Thats okay. A bit awkward and funny but not a huge prob.
The bigger prob was the toyhook he also found while moving the matress. It was right under the bed (at the side). It was dirty: literally **bleep**ty. He didnt have to come close to see that.
Both my friend and i are ‘kink friendly’ so finding straps and toys is ‘okay’ in a way but you should hide these things while hosting. Its not a huge prob. Its the hygiene that is the problem.
The big question is: after first pointing out that bloodstained bedsheets are not okay and having a uncomfortable talk about that: How do you tell the host that you accidentally found her literally **bleep**ty toys?
My friend still likes the apt and wants to return in the future but is really upset by again being confronted with her hygienic oblivious matters around the bed.
How should he talk about this with her: he doesnt want to seem creepy (as tho he was looking through her private things : the hook was just lying there under the side of the bed). He does want to return in the future. He is disgusted about the whole thing. Doesnt want to hurt her feelings tho..
What are your thoughts? Im amazed and frankly dont have a clue what to advise..