I feel like you should be charging a consultation fee! I think adding that kind of information would be super helpful and may even allow me to turn my instant book back on! The first two guests I had with instant book were such a bad fit that I immediately turned it off.
So here’s the crux of my hosting style that I’ve never been sure how to articulate on my profile - and there is a contradiction, as you’ve noticed. The second floor of my house is *my* living space with my own living room, dining room, bedroom and bathroom. There is a locked door at the bottom of the stairs (that door is in their guest living room) so I have total privacy and safe keeping of anything I don’t want guests to access.
The guests have a small bedroom with a locked door (keys provided). We share the kitchen/dining room and their private bathroom is on the other side of the kitchen. The downstairs of the house is packed with as many amenities as I can think of and all the drawers and cabinets are labeled which guests love and it’s my way of saying (please use all of this! It’s for you!)
I do cook myself dinner most nights, so I will be in a common area to cook and wash my dishes, but I eat upstairs, and other than some polite small talk and local suggestions (I also have a visitor center’s worth of brochures, books, and current events newspapers displayed) I prefer to have my alone time upstairs.
I know that some guests have an expectation of a built in friend and local to spend evenings with them providing company and social entertainment. I cannot find a profile friendly way to say I am a pretty introverted and I’m not that. And I have ended up in a few situations where guests seem genuinely hurt or offended I don’t want to watch television or eat meals with them.
Tl;dr: my stay is jam packed with material comforts and amenities, but not an extroverted host.