@Elisa
My Aloha Spirit Haha. My most recent new guest, just chatting gives me a lot of insight to a persons true self. Yes, I want to know if a good fit but it doesn't have to be approached negatively. I don't want to interact with defensiveness. Most of my guests are specialists for construction projects, Arizona because of temperatures the work schedule usually starts at 5 am so obviously the house is quiet very early. I will ask do you have a predawn schedule because our house really caters to you then. Arising at b4 am is not uncomfortable worrying about being quiet. Then I just chit chatted about grocery stores, which also says to me probably a guest that cooks his own meals. When he arrive I make sure to take time when showing him the kitchen. Then we chit chatted about Hawaii, he has a friend that lives there. That tells me he is able to just converse with a stranger, me. That to me says a person that can just chit chat with a stranger, a guest, without causing or presenting discomfort.
Conversation tells me about the person but also tells him who I am. We aren't adversaries before he comes.
He knows the other 2 guests weren't presented a questioner. The other 2 guests are people, so similar to me, the guest.
