@Katie1148 It should have been made clear to you when you booked what the owner expects you to do before leaving.
1. I do not ask guests to strip the beds. Housekeeping needs to see if laundry treatment is needed, and rummaging through rolled up linens is annoying. My housekeeper has a complete change-out set of linens, so what is not washed and dried during cleaning can be taken off site.
2. I do ask guests to put all used towels in the shower/tub. No wet towels on the floor please. Again, towels are checked for treatment before being washed. Because housekeeping washes towels with a particular detergent sanitizer mix and at a certain temperature, I do not want guests to start a load of towels. Housekeeping also has a complete replacement set if towels need to be taken off-site.
3. Guests should collect and wash all of the dishes, utensils, pots and pans that were used during their stay. Putting a load in the dishwasher and getting it started is not to much to ask. My housekeeper is not your mother. However, some guests do not know how to use the dishwasher properly, so even after a cycle has run, my housekeeper will inspect and may have to rewash dishes before putting them away.
I would like to see guests give due consideration to the efforts of housekeepers, and think about how they would feel if they were the housekeeper who had to come along behind a group of persons who left food, glasses and dishes all over, pots and pans piled in the sink, stains on bedding and towels that were used to wash the dog. IMO, guests should leave a property the way that they would leave their grandmother's house. My grandmother would have come after me with a stick if I disrespected her home. (I don't say their mother's house, because some young persons still think that mom is going to clean up after them as if they were infants...)
Likewise, hosts need to adjust their expectations of guests who are there to relax and vacation; especially if a hefty cleaning fee is charged. If you are not allowing enough time between guests for your housekeeper to get the job done when guests are disrespectful or overly messy, rethink your need for "heads in beds". Hotels can take a room out of service when necessary, hosts cannot.