@Heidi599 I'm not sure what you mean by "or they can post a rebutttal to my review which does not happen".
Both hosts and guests can leave a response to a review. I don't know what the time limit is to do that after the reviews are published. There is no need to stress about a guest leaving a public response to a review. The responses they leave appear on their profile page, not yours- future guests will never see them.
I don't quite understand why you offered to take your review down for "checking".
You should always leave honest reviews, but I agree with Karla that your review was much too wordy and nit-picky. It's fine to get that detailed here on the forum- for instance hosts will post all the gritty details here of what they experienced with a guest, so others have a full picture, then ask for review suggestions or ask if they are expecting too much from guests and is this normal guest behavior.
When you write a review, think about what you would want to know about a guest if you were another host reading a guest's reviews. Do I need to know all those details, or do I just need to come away with a general idea of whether this was a good guest or one to decline?
For sure you don't want to be entirely general, because what might bother one host might not bother another, so we do need to know some basic things about a guest. For instance, a guest who was socially uncomfortable, super shy and unable to engage in easygoing banter and squirrelled themselves away in their room, only scurrying quickly in and out to use the bathroom or kitchen, might be unsuitable for a home-share situation, but that quality wouldn't matter in an entire house listing. However, I wouldn't say in a review that the guest was socially challenged, I'd say "This guest may be better suited to an entire place listing, as they didn't appear to be at ease in relating to others in our home-share."
We don't need to know in a review all the back and forth about the check-in time, that the guest arrived at 2:30, when you told her 3, and was sitting in her car in the driveway, for instance. If she tried to enter before 3, that could all be condensed to "disrespected check-in time". If she was just sitting there in her car waiting until 3, it wouldn't seem like a big deal to me, although I realize it was annoying and pressuring.
Gross garbage is something that is just part and parcel of hosting sometimes. No need to be specific about it. If guests dealt poorly with garbage, either let it go or "garbage was not disposed of in a respectful way". No one needs to know they were pee pads, sanitary pads, condoms or anything else.
Reviews should be factual, not based on or coming across as an expression of your feelings of annoyance.
Your review could have been condensed to
"Judy left the home reasonably clean and tidy with no damage. Her dogs caused no issues. Communication was mediocre and we rushed to accommodate her push for early check-in. There was an undisclosed extra guest. There were a number of other things about this 3 night stay that were no big deal if taken separately, but taken as a whole, left us feeling irritated and disrespected."