@Karla463 a quick spin around these forums will reveal that many hosts feel this way. My own personal philosophy is to involve ABB as little as possible. If you are having a delicate situation, posting in the "Host Only" forum will allow you to get guidance without the guest being able to possibly run across the thread on a Google index. There are a lot of great, experienced hosts who take the time to weigh in and help others. Granted, that is not the way it SHOULD be, but that is the way that it is.