Hi, my name is Rose.
I have read through all of your posts with thoughtful care. Many of them were very lengthy and some what repetitive, but I stuck with you to the end. I hope you will give me the same courtesy.
I have never been a particularly petite person. But never did I imagine that I would be over 300 lbs. About 12 years ago, I was in a bike accident that messed up my knees. Exercise became excruciatingly painful. It has taken awhile but here I am, our 38th anniversary-
I have been spending a considerable time on Airbnb for months to find just the right place to go for our anniversary. I look at the furniture so closely and constantly thinking, that won't hold my weight. So you see, there are some at least that are so very aware of our situation and to spare both of us embarrassment and expense. And I would be mortified if I damaged anyone's belongings!! So months later and only 3 weeks til our anniversary, I have not booked anything, though I have a dozen or more that I love.
I know there are ones out there that don't care at all, and others who just don't think. Those may feel that their own furniture works, so your should too.
My suggestion in order to keep from having a discrimination case or bent up broken furniture...invest in heftier chairs especially dining chairs and flimsy little bistro sets for outdoors, the thin plastic lawn chairs from Walmart, use heavier chain and hooks on porch swings, block up the bed under the four corners an a couple or three places in the middle to protect the fram and the box springs. Watch at garage sales, estate sales, Goodwill for nice sturdy chairs not a lot of money on antiques and flimsy press board furniture. Become familiar with what is a cheap piece or reproduction and well made furniture before you start buying. It doesn't have to be new. Don't buy with eyes, use mind, turn it over, look under it to see how it's made.
Some of the nicest people you'll ever meet are overweight or obese. But you'll never get to know us if you think of all of us as weak minded people, lacking self control, an obstacle, and a liability.
As a side note...I asked google what percentage of Americans are overweight or obese....
The answer, nearly 75% of men.
60% of women
Even 30% of children
So alittle planning could be lucrative and safe for you and stress relieving and freeing for us....
Some of us are trapped inside severally damaged bodies, hating what we have become, loathing the hulk we are locked in. PLEASE BE CAREFUL NOT TO BE JUDGMENTAL most of us desperately wish even more than you that we could be different.
Because we are afraid of being judged, we stay inside the 4 walls of our homes, hidden away. It's ashame!
Rosie
Washington State