@Becky165 A few points on this:
1. Guests can review hosts and give feedback regardless of whether they've received a reciprocal review. If one does not submit a review, the other's is automatically published 14 days after the checkout date.
2. While some guests still prefer the old-school Airbnbs, which are people's actual homes and full of personal decorations, books, etc, the tendency in the higher end of the market is toward properties that exist exclusively for short-term rental. This has set a lot of guests' expectations, and you see that reflected in complaints about stuff like a kitchen or closets not being emptied out, and walls containing decor that the guest found offensive (this forum has several recent posts about this very issue).
Clearly, it's impossible to please everyone. But don't you think the guest has some responsibility to choose a property that suits the experience they want? It's pretty easy to tell from photos how a home is decorated and furnished, so you can choose to find a place that's to your taste. And if you want to be sure that your booking is in a place of residence and not merely an auto-Airbnb, you can choose a private room with a live-in host - which is almost guaranteed to have some palpable character.
I totally understand and share your preferences, which is why I choose Airbnbs over hotels whenever possible. But this does mean taking the time to find a place that I click with, at a price I find acceptable - not expecting things that weren't offered in the first place.