Hi to all female hosts,
After some stressful experiences, I've decided to refuse any further booking requests from men. I thought about perhaps only accepting men who meet certain profile and verification criteria, but at the moment I think it's far simpler to refuse all men and avoid the worry.
I offer a single room in my two bedroom flat. I've hosted two single male guests. Both tried it on – albeit in their subtle-but-not-so-subtle ways. I felt VERY uncomfortable.
I decided to stay out of their way, going out almost every night to avoid them. One guest unnerved me so much, that when I did sleep at home, I kept a rape alarm under my pillow.
I guess they saw me as fair game, although neither of them new whether I had a boyfriend or not – that didn't seem to be a concern for them. I found it very difficult to be the friendly accomodating host, while asserting the fact that I was not available for intimacy. I know how affability can be mis-read, which can be ok in the outside world but when you're 'trapped' with a guy like this in your apartment it's scarey.
The second male guest outright confessed that he chose my place because my photo was attractive and that I appeared to be single (he purposefully looked for evidence of a man in my text). I have since changed my profile to include my boyfriend – luckily I do have one, he just doesn't live with me in London right now.
My advice is to think really carefully about hosting a single male guest if you live alone. Even if that male guest says he is married. Even if they have a few good reviews. If you have an attractive profile photo, they are most certainly checking you out and thinking of ways to get intimate with you once they are inside your home.
And if you have a boyfriend, make sure he features in your profile – it may help to deter the creeps.