@Lupita45
It is going to happen from time to time, and I have found the best way is to say nothing and learn from it!
I had one guest who said to me......."The plate attacked me from the cupboard" .....she said it in jest but, like you, it did ruin a 4 place setting. In fact it was not just one plate that attacked her, it was two, but she felt one of them was not badly damaged enough to make mention of!
Absolutely no offer to compensate me, it was all the plate's fault for being so clumsily stacked in the cupboard.
Lupita , taking a guest like this to task and going to get you nowhere, they will just resent you, give you a poor review and it will end up costing you far more than the broken article......put it down to the rough side of hosting!
And what you learn from this is to supply generic crockery where a plate can be easily replaced at any time, or do what I have done, when K Mart have a clearance and I bought a 10 place setting for $40, (50c per plate) and I think at the rate of breakages I am striking, that will probably cover breakages till I am too old to continue hosting!
Lupita there is the other side of the coin too.....
A few months ago a guest came to me all apologetic, she had broken the bowl I keep in the fridge with eggs for each guest. I said to her ….”Roxy, don’t worry about it, it was of no value, I have plenty more here to replace it”….but she said she felt bad and wanted to replace it. I once again told her not to bother, it was fine!
A week later, out of the blue, a parcel arrived…….
A new bowl with a $50 note in it. I had a little cry when I saw it, it was so nice but so unexpected.
I could see from the parcel that the postage cost her $15, the bowl must have cost around the same. A bowl that had no value to me, I can’t even remember where it came from and I am sure I could have replaced from the local op shop for a couple of dollars, cost that guest $80.
I felt terrible, I wish the incident had never happened, the last thing I ever want to do is take advantage of someone else.
So, it does go both ways, but I think the point I want to get across to you is, if the guest owns what they did and wants to compensate you, great, accept it and thank them so much. If the guest doesn't want to accept any responsibility and feels you should just accept that as part of hosting, be very pleasant and tell them, 'never mind, accidents happen' and move on. That way you will get a good review because they will feel guilty that they broke something of yours, and in your review, if you feel suitably taken advantage of you can say "It would have been lovely if the guest had taken a bit more care of our property" and give them a 3 star!
Cheers........Rob