It seems guests are often looking for event space = like graducation bbq

[Rebecca2294]

We have a gorgeous house with extended patio and pool that is a gorgeous view.  We love having parties at are home, but we are familiar with the property and are able to require people to call down the excitement of jumping in the pool, etc.

I have now high school and college graduations that want to have " just a few " which then rises with number.... "they won't spend the night" - well they should if they have been drinking... right?   So after talking with insurance and airbnb "I just say no - if they are registered as an overnight guest ok - but otherwise no other allowed on property.  We do not have events and it is also an Airbnb rule.

Recently a lady asked to move reservation to VRBO because they allow events, especially "bbq which is so simple".   I called VRBO and they say damages covered but no clear decisive answer on liability.

I prefer not to, but I know it is hampering my reservation acceptance - it seems like every third person wants a discount and additional guests!!!

What say you?

[Elegant-Homes-Retreat0]

Hi @Rebecca2294,

Thank you for sharing this — I really feel for you. It sounds like you’ve created a beautiful space, and it’s understandable that guests are drawn to it for special occasions. But as hosts, we also have to protect our homes, our peace of mind, and stay within Airbnb’s policies and insurance coverage.

You're absolutely right to set clear boundaries. Allowing unregistered guests or events can introduce serious liability concerns — not to mention noise complaints, property damage, and the risks you mentioned with alcohol and the pool. Even the most well-intentioned "small gathering" can quickly spiral beyond control.

We’ve taken a similar approach:

Only registered guests allowed on the property.

No parties or events as per Airbnb policy.

We clearly state this in our house rules, listing description, and again in our pre-arrival communication to set expectations.

Yes, it might mean declining some bookings, but in the long run, protecting your property and your hosting reputation is worth it. I totally understand the frustration of having to say “no” when you want to say “yes” — especially when inquiries come with pressure for discounts or exceptions. But sticking to your policy ensures a better guest experience overall and reduces your risk.

You're doing the right thing. Hang in there — the right guests will appreciate your beautiful home and your boundaries.