@Heidi500 I understand- it's hard to confront people, especially if they aren't really doing anything wrong, but are just basically annoying, because they don't seem to have any sense of how their behavior might be affecting others. If they're only staying for a few days, we can let it go with the thought that they'll be gone soon.
But I always think it's the best policy to talk to someone right away if something they are doing is really bugging you. If you sit on it and let it fester, it just becomes more annoying, and then finding a way to finally talk about it can be hard.
Things don't have to be confrontational- we can invite a guest to sit down with us for cup of tea or coffee, or a glass of wine and just have a normal conversation about whatever, then just sort of work into the conversation "Oh, BTW, I just have to say something, because it's kind of been bugging me.....
I know I've read quite a few posts here over time about exactly the same issue- shared-home hosts who get these guests that just never go anywhere and are always in the common spaces. I've been lucky not to get any guests like that, but if I did, I'd probably say something like: "I know this is a shared home listing and I wouldn't do it if I really minded sharing my home, but all my guests so far have seemed to have lots of things to do all day, and were out and about a lot of the time. I still felt like it was my home and that I was just hosting guests, not had a roommate move in. I certainly don't expect you to just stay squirreled away in your bedroom all day, but maybe you're feeling a bit shy in a new place and not really sure how to occupy yourself when you're not working? I know some cool things you could do and see around here that you might really like...."
