Looking to connect with trans hosts

Rhys29
Level 2
Glasgow, United Kingdom

Looking to connect with trans hosts

Hi! Looking for other trans/non binary hosts, just to talk about experiences, issues with guests etc. It would be lovely to connect with people! I see that there’s discussion posts on lgbt issues but they mainly seem to be posted and commented on by heterosexual and cisgender hosts. 

 

I just starting hosting my place sometimes while I’m away. I am trans and open about it. I have a fairly kitshy/camp place, with art that has a queer theme. 

 

Since I started hosting the lowest reviews I have got have been from a guests who have a common theme in the backgrounds/identities - namely older men. Their reviews have never been openly transphobic but there’s comments or irrelevant nitpicking that makes me wonder if it’s connected to that. I know this is subjective, but I co hosted for my partner for a long time so I have some experience with reading between the lines with feedback. 

 

I want people who are going to enjoy my space - it’s my home, not a business so I don’t plan to make it more “neutral” for the comfort of people who are not supportive of lgbtqi+ rights! I wonder if there are techniques for filtering out people or promoting your space to those who are genuinely accepting. I’ve put lgbt+ friendly, but perhaps there’s something I’ve not thought of! 

 

Thanks!

 

 

 

 

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Lando2
Level 2
Berlin, DE

hello rhys, glad to read you! i cannot talk of my experience so far as i'm totally new here, thinking of renting my little appartment now and then, and quite terified. i'm non-binary trans, just wanted to say hello mainly, and yes, i've similar concerns (although i haven't really started yet). i was thinking, maybe the text i write about myself here will be a kind of "filter" too (?)...

lando

Johnny131
Level 2
Olympia, WA

hey rhys and lando.  not sure either one of you will see this message.

i have been doing airbnb for a few years in olympia, wa.

recently i have been having a hard time with airbnb ignoring my request to have reviews amended that use the wrong pronoun to signify me.  i am a female bodied gender queer person who uses he/him pronouns.  in the past airbnb changed the pronoun to reflect he.  later they said they could only change the review to omit pronouns which was a bummer.  now they are ignoring me.  

i am upfront with guests about my gender identity and most everyone is super chill.  sadly, my last two guests have not been rad.  i am likely leaving the airbnb community due to airbnbs inablity to support trans folks, and me feeling scetched out by my last 2 guests.  it sucks.

until recently, especially living in olympia, i have had a lot fo fun doing airbnb meeting cool people.  i will say very few of my guests have been queer tho.  and not once has another gender queer or trans person booked.  i wonder if there is another platform for queers to guest.  if either of you ever come to olympia, hit me up if i am still here!  and if i ever make it back to berlin, or to glasgow, i will hit you up!!!!

@Johnny131 

If you use the @ symbol, a drop-down appears witht he names of the people you're responding to they'll be notified of your response.

There is an LGBTQ platform called Mister B&B, which, one would hope, would be more supportive of your pronouns. Presumably guests would also be more liable to use the correct ones, and not give rise to needing an edit.

@Johnny131hey johnny, nice to hear your voice ! (i did get notification of your post btw)

yes, definately hit me up when you're in berlin 🙂

sorry to hear about your not-so-good experiences 😞   tbh i still haven't made it to insert the ad for my appartment ^^(not easy when juggling  several freelance jobs and caretaking of a kid ..)

i heard of another platform called ebab.com (enjoy bed & breakfast), which sound to me more gay gay as queer if you know what i mean 😉 but anyways..

take care

Hey, I want to ask if you're still hosting and if you'd be willing to talk about your experiences as a gender queer person in air bnb

Thanks,

Emily Jane

(traveler, not a host)