I agree with you. Due to many guests demanding a super clean kitchen and house, I merely am starting to not let guests use the kitchen. Sad really. I wish to provide a service. But there are bad apples who insist on telling everyone that my silverware drawer is messy. I hate the increased scrutiny. It makes my life easier tho to deny them access.
My advice is stop allowing guests full access to you house (laundry , common areas and kitchen). That way they won't be bothered by your lifestyle not meeting their high expectations.
Not really sure you're not getting bookings. You have good reviews and a good price.
One confusing thing: Do you really allow 8 guests in one room?
I could understand how guests might unwittingly think you are renting the whole house