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@Emilia42
A sudden lunch often gets in the way when guests travel to an airbnb. Host Lucilla in italy once had that problem. Her guests were undecided if they would be able to make it to the already extended check-in time of 8pm or maybe they might have dinner in Milano which would move their arrival to 11pm.
@Ann72
Host @Lucilla14 in Italy had terrible problems saying NO in 2018. Her biggest problem: Enforcing her check-in time. I was trying to help her and suggested to post this under her listing pictures:
Later she wrote to me:
„I can't tell you how important it is for me to hear this.... I started to make a few extra euros per month, but deeply care that people feel confortable here, to a point where I am being too hard on myself.
I am constantly fighting the need to please everybody, my need for approval and my sense of inadequacy, I guess that's how I was raised, to always feel sorry to put my needs first.
I always had so much trouble to say NO and stand my ground, to the point I still sometimes find myself about to cry when I try to. …....
I just needed to feel less alone and understand how I can be professional and not being walked all over at the same time, so I asked advice from people who have much greater experience than mine. Sorry if I got a little personal, but your answer really touched me. Thanks a lot, now I feel tremendously better“
Ann and Emilia, pls read Lucilla's thread. She's such a nice girl, the sweetest person in the world. The way she writes is really touching.
https://community.withairbnb.com/t5/Help/Guests-pretension/td-p/838351