Guest changing plans.

[Marit0]

I accepted someone for long term, 5 weeks, on the basis that this person was going to be at work 13 hours a day. I also have been at work a lot this summer, and I also needed my space alone at home to be able to do a second job that I have. I have recently had another guest being here for the same job and for the same period of time, and it worked out perfectly for both parts. This time, my guest quit his job after a week, and has been sitting in my kitchen being very talkative and somewhat attention seeking for the rest of the time. It was not possible for me to do my second job at home, since it requires solitude and concentration. I have actually been outdoors every day because of this talkative person in my home, searching for calm places outoors in parks and so on to have some peace. Very stressful in the end. How could I have solved this situation? 

[Tracy0]

I think you should speak to your guest and then follow up with a message so it's logged, something along these lines:

I readily accepted a 5 week booking on the basis that you would be working during the day, which was important to me because I also have a second job at home which requires solitude and quiet.  Since you have left your job and have been in the house all day I have found it impossible to do my job.  Although you chose to leave your job, I need to do mine and I really need to have the daytime free from distraction to work.  Norway is fantastically beautiful and there is a lot you could do during the day which would mimic the arrangement we had that you would be out during the day, which would allow me to work.  

Of course you could also suggest that this person change accomodation, depending if you wanted to suggest that.

What a difficult thing to be put in a position of having to leave your home!

[Marit0]

He has left now. But you know, you don't know until the situation is there, that the person is home and attention seeking and you find yorself on the street looking for some space... Low social antenna also, on that one. Pretty dumb remarks I had to listen to as well. With someone else the situation could have turned out differently. But thanks, I'll be more clear to begin with if this kind of situation arises again. 

[Helen3]

It's a shame you didn't tackle this, when it first happened, and allowed yourself to be driven from your home.

I would have a friendly chat and let him know that if he wants to stay that is fine but that you took him on, on the basis that he would be out during the day.  You need your living space to yourself during the day as you work. Unfortunately him spending time in your working space during the day means you can't do your work effectively.  

You appreciate that he wouldn't want to disrupt your work so you have some options to discuss with him if he wants to stay on.....

There are lots of lovely places in your area to visit - mention some indoor and outdoor spaces and places he can go for breakfast, lunch etc

If he does want to spend some time at your house during the day he will need to keep to his room, since you work requires solitutude and concentration.

You can follow this up with a message via BnB so you have this conversation in writing