What would you do?
I was on a work trip to the UK around mid-November 2021 and had booked a one month stay with an Aribnb super host. During my stay I can't think of anything that went wrong with the host, all was normal and ok. I mostly kept to myself and work as I had a lot of things to get done in that month. however, I did notice that someone did go through my stuff when I went out to work on the second day of my stay, that was really annoying because it happened right after I introduced myself (what I do, my nationality etc) and a bit of small talk in the Kitchen. anyway, I got past that quick & this is not my issue.
I purchased a pair of leather shoes online from a relatively well-known brand that's based in the Netherlands, they were £208. I received them a few days later at the host's address after asking for their permission.
long story short about the shoes, they were nice but didn't fit me at all, too narrow so I decided to return them, went online downloaded all forms and followed return instructions that came with it and sent it back International Signed & Tracked with Royal Mail. two months went by and I never got a refund, when tracked it just says "pending as customs" in the Netherlands.
Before I left the host's place, I asked if I can leave an empty Apple Macbook box and a router device with her untill my next visit because my work gave me these but I only unboxed them when I was back at home (Airbnb) and then couldn't go to the office to leave them anymore due to Covid cases and now I ran out of space in terms of luggage. She said "yes of course no problem" so that was nice of her.
anyway, as I said about the shoes, more than 2 months later still no refund as it was kept in customs then the item was sent back to the Airbnb I was staying at, I tried my best to stop them from sending it back to the UK but that didn’t work.
so exactly two weeks ago I got a text from the host saying she got a parcel in my name from the Netherlands, so I apologised to her and explained what happened and I said I’ll be in the UK soon and will come and collect it then along with the other stuff I left with her. However, I texted her yesterday saying can I come and pick it up on Tuesday next week, and she said “Hi, I haven’t heard from you so I donated it to a charity for Ukraine. Sorry”.
Don’t want to sound like a terrible person. but I’m so angry, of course, I care about what’s going on in Ukraine and anywhere else in the world where innocents are going through hard times, but I don’t understand how you could donate someone else stuff when they told you they will pick it up exactly 13 days ago?
I asked her for the charity name but she's was avoiding my question and instead asked me If I am still coming on Tuesday to collect my other items (which are clearly less valuable)
Eventually, after loads of messages, I got a charity name from her so I called them right away, the charity said we haven't received anything like that even I asked their email address so I can send a picture of the shoes but no they didn't see it and told me that all that we sent to Ukraine so far is bed linen, covers and coats and no shoes.
I asked the charity to check with colleagues and ask them if anyone did come and ask for something back (because she (Airbnb host) told me she did but failed to get it back) and the charity shop said no they didn't have anyone asking about an item they donated, if that happened we'd all know as it's a small shop and this rarely happens in the community.
I am fuming because it doesn't look like she donated it, I'd feel better if she did but the whole thing says no she didn't, i.e:
* She avoided many texts asking her for the charity name until I mentioned I was going to take legal action against her for opening my mail.
* She conveniently left the less expensive item from her "donation"
* I specifically told her I was waiting for a refund and that I'll come and pick it up or have someone else do it as soon as I can but she went ahead and "donated" it anyway.
Any advice would be appreciated (even if you'd like to point where I was wrong).
PS. I tried to put myself in her shoes and no I wouldn't have done that, even if I didn't have the space or the patience, still I'd at least give notice or say something like hello just FYI I need this gone, so I'm going to dispose/donate this soon.