Inappropriate Guest Message

[Crystal254]

Hello,

I am new to hosting (first month) and have had guests pretty much every night so far.  My last nights guest is where Im looking for opinions on the situation.

The guest was to check in around 4PM as per the message they sent when booking.  The window they choose was 4-6PM.  The guest arrived at 6:30PM (I have no issues with this).  I do have self check-in option set.  As per the check-in instructions sent, the airbnb room entrance is located at the back of the house and there is a lockbox.  The guest did not follow this and came to my front door.  As we received a huge snowstorm and it was fairly cold and icy outside, I offered to take the guest to the room through the house.  We chatted for a couple minutes and the guest asked for a suggestion on local bars.  I advised I was fairly new to the area and did make a couple suggestions.  The guest asked me if I would like to join at the bar and I politely declined.

Just before 11PM, the guest sent me a message and advised he had found a great bar in the area.  I advised that was great and that I was headed to bed, however if anything was needed to please contact me.  The guest then replied with "I'm happy thanks! Unless you want to cuddle, I'd be better".  I had no idea how to reply and I took a few minutes and replied with "no cuddling for me but enjoy your night".  The guest replied and said "you as well, sweet dreams".

There was no further messages exchanged after this and the guest checked out this morning.  I had no issues with the room afterwards.

Just wondering if anyone else has experienced this, if they found it inappropriate, how they handle it?

[Sarah977]

@Anonymous  Yeah, if Liam Neeson booked my place and invited me for a drink and a cuddle, I might take a less than professional approach. 

[Branka-and-Silvia0]

@Sarah977  😄 lol

@Crystal254  you are obviously a smart, young and attractive girl, maybe it would help if you would change your profile picture ....  a good friend of mine have her worst early-morning-before-coffee picture on her Facebook profile and she said she is not receiving stupid messages from strangers any more 😄 While she was young she always had short hair and went clubbing in her father's oversized shirt, baggy jeans, and without makeup just to keep guys away ....yeah... sometimes is hard to be a woman :)))

[Sean433]

@Branka-and-Silvia0 

I agree, a less flirty picture would help. I have learned from experience that how you present yourself will usually change how others act or react to you.

I find it super annoying that women sometimes appear defensive when they meet me and it changes the way I act in front of them. For this reason, I keep more distance which is not good because it may make me look less friendly which is not my intention but I feel it is necessary in these times, it's sad. 

For this reason, I have uploaded a picture of both myself and wife on my profile so they know I am in no way interested in them. Far from it, if they saw how beautiful my wife is, they would know right away that my interest only lies in the money they bring lol.

[Crystal254]

@Branka-and-Silvia0and @Sean433 i will definitely update my photo!  This will be my weekend task.. I may even have a male friend take a photo with me so I appears I have a significant other.

[Sean433]

@Crystal254 

That is an excellent idea. I am sure it will help a lot my fellow Torontonian .

[Kevin1322]

Sounds like  he had one too many in the bar, and his filters between brain and mouth had got a bit bypassed. 

You handled it well. 👍

[Crystal254]

@Kevin1322yea most likely.  thanks I appreciate that.

[Sean433]

@Crystal254 

Although I cannot relate to this since I have never had a guest ask me this - obviously

from my vantage point on the other side of the coin, I do sense females tend to be more apprehensive when they do meet me vs when male guests meet me. This is why I put a picture of my wife on my profile so that they know I am not single -- because some women think very highly of themselves and think every guy is interested in them. This attitude is just as annoying to me as a male  as it probably is for females who get hit on.

Either way, yes it was inappropriate of him. Are you going to mention this in a review?

[Crystal254]

@Sean433 i really make an effort not to be that girl who thinks every guy is hitting on her and in fact theyre just being nice.  I have a welcome book in the room and use the term “we” vs. I. I choose to do this to let people think it was not just me, a single girl in the house. 

I did not mention this in the review. I did send a private message. 
After thinking about it, I thought because he did not continue after I sent my message and he was not persistent I would not comment on the review about it. 

[Amanda660]

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