@Crystal223 You have two different issues here. First about the review and editing it: You can edit your review until it is published, which will happen when the guest has submitted their review or if 14 days since check out has passed. This allows both the guest and the host to provide their review without seeing the other review. As a host you are also able to respond to the guest review as needed. Just be professional and non defensive in your response.
Second: If you are making a damage claim, you are required to advise the guest of the damage and the cost and ask for payment. If guest agrees, request the money through the system. If guest denies or refuses to respond in a timely manner, you then use the Air BNB system to seek payment. You had best read all the articles about making a claim.
Breaking your rules in and of itself is not something you can claim unless there is chargeable damage. Your review is the only response you can have by doing a thumbs down review so the guest is not able to use IB and other hosts will be warned.